11 Quotes & Sayings By Sarah Hackley

Sarah Hackley is the author of seven books, including the teen novels The Summer of the Fool, The Secret Cabinet of Miranda Bailey, and The Other Side. She's also written two adult novels (The Hook-Up and The Good Sister), two children’s picture books (The Perfect Present and A Monster in Paris), and a memoir (It Happened in Berkeley). Her essay "Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain" won third place in the 2009 WSJ/SIAC National Short Story Contest. She lives in Northern California with her husband.

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Depression affects almost 80% of migraine sufferers at one time or another. People with migraine, especially chronic migraine, also are more likely to experience intense anxiety and to have suicidal tendencies. If we want to live happy and joyful lives with migraine, it is vital that we acknowledge and deal with the emotional realities of the disease. Sarah Hackley
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Sometimes falling apart is the bravest act of all Sarah Hackley
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I had built such a wall between my experiences and how I felt about those experiences that I was incapable of reliving both simultaneously. I could talk about my traumas, even walk through them, but I couldn’t feel them. When I tried to bring it all together, when I tried to remember how I had felt, I disappeared in my own head. My to-do list took on grave importance. The book I read the night before filled my thoughts. Yesterday’s article suddenly called out to be rewritten. I couldn’t get inside myself. . Sarah Hackley
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Sometimes the boxes we’re put in fit. Other times, we find ourselves shoved into places too confining for our growing sense of self. Sarah Hackley
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Dissociation can enable us to withstand pain and loss under which we would otherwise break. It enables us to survive and pull through. But, a habit of continual dissociation — especially after the trauma has passed — leads to the shut-in feeling I was experiencing. While I imagined I was being strong in the face of pain, in reality, I was merely hiding. Sarah Hackley
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No one knows our bodies or our subjective experiences like we do. This means we can rest secure in our knowledge of ourselves and what we’re going through, even when the medical profession doesn’t understand or believe us. Migraine is a weird and changing disease. It affects all of us differently, and every attack is a little different than the one before. This means that no one can understand your life, symptoms, or illness like you can. This can be incredibly empowering: you are the expert. But, it also carries great responsibility: to live as happily and as fully as possible, you must listen to your body and trust your instincts. . Sarah Hackley
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Past traumas are like old scars on tissue that never quite healed properly — they occasionally must be cut open, re-examined, and sutured anew. Sarah Hackley
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Remember this: You are the expert of your body. Sarah Hackley
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By taking the time to focus on our mental and emotional well-being, we can minimize our triggers and reduce the likelihood of a recurrence. Sarah Hackley
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No matter what stage of illness we are in, whether we’ve just been diagnosed or we have lived with chronic migraines for decades, there are adjustments we can make to increase joy in our lives and to live more fully. Sarah Hackley